When we know that our employer is considering or planning to reduce its force, it is normal for us to have a variety of different reactions: Here are some typical and common types of responses to this stressful event:
- Denial – Employees sometimes feel that it can’t happen to them because they have been good performers and they believe that others are less deserving. Some people don’t want to even think about it, and remain very distant.
- Blame—It is much easier trying to fix the blame on someone or something. People often engage in behavior whose purpose is to focus on others' faults or problems.
- Anger – Sometimes anger gets misdirected. It is difficult to accept that losses are sometimes unavoidable. People under stress often spill over emotionally, resulting in impatience, reduced tolerance for frustration, and increased outbursts of emotion.
- Fear & Worry – It is common to catastrophize a situation, and to imagine the worst case scenario. The potential loss of a job can threaten our sense of safety and security. Thoughts of impending doom and tragic outcomes can be triggered during this period. It is also normal to begin to worry about how things will be at work after the lay off for those that stay.
- Exploring Alternatives – Some people get busy right away looking for a Plan B in the event that they will be let go. This can include calling prospective employers, getting a resume up to date, or starting to seek another job.
- Talking & Guessing – Many people feel the need to validate their feelings, and to share their thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Often people try to figure out who will be let go, and may engage in conversations geared to try to solve the mystery not just for themselves, but co-workers as well.
- Guilt—Frequently
employees who are sure that they will not be let go can feel guilty
about their fortune when some colleagues that they like will be terminated.
Some may think about things that they may have done to help avoid the
layoff.
TIPS TO HELP COPE
- Normalize Feelings—Know that your reactions are likely normal under the circumstances. Try to be more tolerant of other people who may be exhibiting other ways to cope with the stress. If you need to take a few minutes to yourself to allow for being upset, it’s OK.
- Accept Support—Allow others to be helpful to you, and appreciate their willingness to offer you support. Don’t isolate too much.
- Keep to Task—The more you can focus on the work at hand, the easier it will be to make it through this period. Even if you are laid off, maintaining your professionalism through your last day will help enhance your self-esteem and dignity.
- Avoid Negativity—Try not to feed into the rumor mill, and steer clear of rampant gossip and blaming. It rarely makes you feel better participating in bashing type behavior.
- Beware Excesses—Do not increase your alcohol or food intake, try not to spend money unnecessarily, and avoid taking unnecessary risks.
- Self-Validation—Make a list of your skills, abilities, accomplishments, and best qualities. You should avoid beating up on yourself, and focus on your strengths.
- Exercise – Maintain your normal exercise routine if you have one. If you don’t, it can be very helpful to start exercising, even if it is going out for walks, which can reduce stress responses.
- Think Positively—Life is change, and with change comes growth. Whether you remain with the company or move on, good can and will come with the change. Look to the positive things that will result.
- Seek Consultation—If you are having a particularly difficult time, don’t be afraid to seek professional guidance. Know the supports that are available to you, like the EAP and others.
Courtesy: Mt. Auburn Hospital Employee Assistance Program – 1-800-888-5105
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